The Purposes of LIfe

Education, Inspiration and Support for living with more purpose and waking up excited about your life

Chapter One
There is Genius Inside You

You are unique

 “Normal is an illusion. What is normal for the spider is chaos for the fly.”Morticia Addams

You are unique and special.  Don’t be afraid to be authentic with others.  The most valuable thing you have to offer other people is yourself.  It is what is different in you that makes you beautiful.  You are a masterpiece.  You are beautiful just the way you are. 

Video: I am a champion

You don’t need everyone to like you.  You are a piece of art.  Not everyone is going to see your beauty.  Ultimately, it’s your opinion of yourself that matters most.  If someone digs up the largest diamond ever, but doesn’t recognize it as a diamond, does that decrease the value of the diamond?  Of course not.  It says more about the person who is looking at it than it does about the art or the diamond.  You are the treasure you have been searching for.  You are the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. You can’t wait around for others to tell you that you are worthwhile.  Sometimes the only good things you will hear about yourself, come from yourself.


“Always be yourself; unless you can be Batman.  Then always be Batman.” 

If the world gives you an opinion about yourself that you don’t like, get another opinion from a Higher Power.  If you base how you feel about yourself by others opinions, then your self-esteem is up for grabs everyday.  What someone else thinks about you is none of your business.  It is always better to live a first class version of yourself, instead of a second class version of someone else.  It has been said that it is better to be hated for who you really are than to be loved for something you are not.  You can’t be your best without first being yourself.

“You cannot tell me who I am and I cannot tell you who you are. Others can give you a name or a number, but they can never tell you who you really are. That is something you yourself can only discover within.”-Thomas Merton

You have Genius Inside you

Albert Einstein said “Everyone is a genius, just in different areas.  But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, the fish will spend his whole life thinking it is stupid.”  You have genius inside you and probably don’t even know it.    



Everyone is intelligent in some areas.  Western culture focuses so much on the academic intelligences of reading and writing.  The education system seems to ask “Are you intelligent?” “How are you intelligent?” is a much better question.  If you are not good at math, does that mean you are dumb?  No.  There are many other ways to be smart.  Some people are artistically smart. 

Others have musical talents.  Athletes and mechanics have the ability to use their bodies and hands in ways that are amazing.  Part of your mission in life is to discover what area your genius is in, and then put enough effort into it, to bring your genius out.

Henry David Thoreau once remarked that everyone was his superior in some way and that is what he looked for in people.  You have greatness in you and you have the responsibility to bring forth that greatness.  Right now you contain everything you need. The seed is within you. It’s not something that needs to be added or invented.  You just need to add water, sunlight, and time. 



Search for your uniqueness.  To strike oil you don’t dig 100 holes that are 1 feet deep. You dig 1 hole that is 100 feet deep.  Decide what you want to do and start digging your 100 foot hole.  Keep digging and you will strike oil (probably gold too).  Find the environment where your genius comes out.  It will take time.  Sometimes it takes a lot of time. When you find it, do whatever it takes to become an expert at it.  There is much truth to the saying it takes 10,000 hours or about 5 years to become an expert at something.

“Examine yourself.  Discover where your true chance of greatness lies.  Seize that chance and let no power or persuasion deter you from your task.” -Chariots of Fire

God Don’t Make no Trash

I believe there is a higher power and that we came from a divine source.  God made you just how He wanted to.  I love the quote “God don’t make no trash”.  God doesn’t make mistakes.  His fingerprints are all over you.  God made you exactly how he wanted to.  Your looks and personality are exactly how they are supposed to be.  If He wanted to make you look like a fashion model, He would have.  If He wanted you to have a different personality, He would have given it to you.  But God chose to make you as you are. 


It’s vital that you accept yourself and be happy with whom God made you to be.  A tulip doesn’t try to be just like a rose so it can be happy. It doesn’t have to.  The tulip is different from a rose and is ok with it.  There is room for every flower in God’s garden.  Be thankful God created you the way he did, and know that He has a plan for you. 

Your sense of value should not come from your accomplishments or how popular or successful you are.  It should be based on the fact that you are a creation of God.  He loves you and has a plan for you.  You also need to trust in yourself instead of in your accomplishments.  It drives me crazy when people ask children “What do you want to “BE” when you grow up?”  You cannot “be” anything other than whom you are.  What you “do” is very different than who you are.  You are not what you do.  Otherwise when you do nothing, you would disappear.  I know a guy that has been sitting on a couch doing nothing for a year, and he has not disappeared yet.  A better question is “What do you want to do, create or express”.

Video: Vision

God loves you just the way you are.  But he isn’t going to leave you that way.  He has a purpose for your life.  He wants you to become more of what you are.  When you get to heaven, God is not going to ask you why you weren’t more like Mother Theresa. He’s going to ask you why you weren’t more like yourself.  Becoming more like yourself is a life-long process.  You can’t finish it in one day, month or year.  Ten years ago you were a different person than you are today, and 10 years from today you will be different than you are now.  Finding your purpose and becoming your best self will be a journey of a lifetime.  It is an incline, not a plateau.  When God makes a mushroom, it only takes a day or two.  When he wants to make an oak tree, it takes 50 to 100 years.  It’s not harder to make an oak tree, but it sure takes longer.  The oak tree you see outside is yesterday’s nut that never gave up.   


Use the Crayons you have

When my younger son was in first grade, some of the students appeared to be having a contest to see who had the biggest box a crayons.  We didn’t know this, and sent our son with his 164 color tub of crayons he got for Christmas.  We thought he was just really enjoying using different colors and wanted to encourage his artistic abilities.  The teacher made everyone take all their crayons home, and we felt a bit foolish for sending the crayons. 

Don’t compare the gifts and talents that other people have to what you have.  You might think that you only have 12 crayons when other people seem to have 48 or 96.  It doesn’t matter.  You really don’t need 10 shades of blue anyway.  We love to compare others peoples public victories with our personal weaknesses.  There is a tendency for us to see the greatness in others but not in ourselves.   

You can make a pretty picture using the crayons that you have.  You don’t have to be brilliant at doing something to be successful.  It’s a lie to think that you have to be perfect to do what you want to do or to have you want.  People with ordinary talent have become extremely successful. 

Video: Potential

What is your superpower?  When that same son was 8 years old, he told me that his superpower was that he didn’t get cold.  It doesn’t have to be something earth shattering.  What sets you apart from everyone else?  What is unique and special about you?


You are here for a special reason.  All of us have special gifts and are meant to shine in one way or another.  Look at the children in Kindergarten.  They are all gorgeous and amazing.  So are we.  Often we ignore our inspirations and then wonder why our lives seem to lack the marvelous or magical quality we felt as children.  We don’t follow our intuition and then wonder why our life doesn’t work.  Children trust their imagination and aren’t afraid of looking ridiculous.  My wife has a sign on the fridge that says, “When we find someone whose craziness is compatible with ours, we call it love.”  We are all a bit crazy.  It is in embracing that crazy side of ourselves that we find peace; and the ability to see our superpowers. 

Video: Believe in yourself  ft. Jaret Grossman & Eric Thomas

Ask a group of 5 year olds if they are good at drawing, singing or dancing.  They will all tell you they are really good at all of them.  When did we lose that attitude?  We don’t have to “become” anything.  We just need to remove what is keeping us from becoming our highest self. 

The Higher Self

“To be who we are, and to become what we are capable of becoming, is the only true purpose to life.”- Robert Lewis Stevenson.

There are two competing entities inside you.  First, there is your higher Self.  The other part is your ego.  Your higher Self is the part of you that is endless.  It existed before you were born and continues to exist when you die.  It is your spirit; your connection to a higher power and everything around you.  Your higher Self wants what is best for you.  More than anything, it wants peace. 


The other part of you is your ego.  This is the part of yourself that thinks it is separate from everything and everyone.  Your ego thinks it is the center of the universe.  The ego is mostly concerned with getting what it wants. And what it wants is to be special, to be better and to have more than everyone else.  And above all, the ego wants to want.  It is never satisfied with what you have.  If it was satisfied, then there would no longer be a need for itself.     


You don’t need to get rid of your ego.  Plus you couldn’t get rid of it if you wanted to.  The ego is a powerful force that we should have a lot of respect for.  It is part of the human condition.  It is like a child that needs to be taught, loved and nurtured.  What you need to do is focus on tuning in to your higher Self and have it continue to become a stronger presence in your life. 

Meditation is a great tool for connecting with your higher Self and a higher power.  (See the meditation exercise at the end of this chapter.)  We were unconditional love before we came to Earth and this love still dwells in our spiritual self.  When you need to make a big decision in your life, you can access this spiritual power and ask for guidance.  In this way you can make conscious decisions and take conscious acitons. 

You can’t trust your emotions or your thoughts.  Emotions and thoughts are often reflections of the Ego. The mind goes round and round at a million miles an hour.  One minute you think one thing, and the next minute you think something completely different.  It is estimated that we have approximately 60,000 thoughts per day.  Your emotions aren’t much better.  One day you have strong feelings about doing something, and the next day you don’t feel anything at all. 

That’s why you must listen to your heart.  You heart doesn’t change every other day.  Your higher Self communicates to you through your heart and your intuition.  (This will be discussed further in other areas of the book.) 

Video: Be Hungry Fight for it

Love Yourself First

You must accept yourself first before you can accept the fact that you deserve success and happiness.  Whatever the problem is, what needs to be worked on is usually loving yourself.  “As we love and approve of ourselves, everything in life works.  You have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked.  Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”- Louis Hay

Generally speaking, most of us are doing the best we can.  If we knew better, or had more understanding or awareness, then we would do it differently.  We are all in a 40 story skyscraper trying to get to the top.  We are all trying to get to the same place.  Some are on the 5th floor. Some are on the 30th floor.  And yes, some seem like they are still in the basement!  Please stop putting yourself down for where you are. No one is better than you are.  You are not inferior to anyone.  They might have a better job, more money or more influence, but that doesn’t make them better than you.  Be OK with what floor you are on and keep trying to move up to the next floor.



Celebrate the small wins.  We are in such a habit of recognizing what we do wrong instead of what we do right.  Get in the habit of catching yourself doing something right.  Every night go over all the right things you did today.  Write “I was successful today because….” and then make a list of your wins.  Count even the small things.  What commitments did you keep?  Did you exercise?  Did you spend quality time with your spouse or children?  Where did you show self control?  Is there something you did to help someone today?

Tell yourself, “I love and accept myself exactly how I am” 200 times each day for 30 days.  And no, 200 times is not too many times.  Start off your day (and end it) looking at yourself in the mirror.  Look at yourself, smile and say, “I love you”.  (I also say “You handsome devil; don’t you ever die.”)  Tell yourself some of the things you love about you.  At the end of the day, tell yourself what you are proud of about the day.  

Create a victory list of your accomplishments and things you are proud of.  Write down as many things as you can.  Start with elementary school.  What did you do that you are proud of?  I remember winning a blue ribbon in my fourth grade field day for the 100 yard dash.  Go through high school.  Did you get good grades or volunteer somewhere?  Did you graduate?  That is an accomplishment.  Did you get married and have children?  Are you proud of your children?  Have you been a good father/mother, brother/sister or son/daughter?  Go through your whole life and write down all the good things you can think of.  Stop putting yourself down for everything you aren’t, and start praising yourself for everything that you are.  Keep this list out where you can see it.  If you don’t want others to see some of your accomplishments, use a code word to help you remember it.   

Spend 20 minutes meditating every day.  There are a thousand ways you can meditate.  The easiest way is to just sit for 20 minutes breathing deeply and focusing on your breath.  When thoughts come up acknowledge them and let them go.The following meditation is my favorite.  It is from the book Conscious Transformaiton.  If you don’t like this one, just find one that works for you.  Find somewhere quiet where you won’t be disrupted.  Sit with your back straight.  Close your eyes and breathe in and out through your nose.  Breathe into the center of you body (about 2 inches below the belly button and 1 inch toward your spine).  Imagine your breath is golden light going into your boday.  Next imagine a column or tube of light descending down through the top of your head, to your center.  This column of light is a huge source of energy, light and spirit.  See yourself traveling from your center, up the column of light until you leave the top of your head.  You are connecting with a higher power and with your higher Self.  Imagine breathing that energy down the tube all the way to your center.  Continue to breathe in the light for 20 minutesWhen thoughts, feelings or sensations come up, just acknowledge them and let them pass , like a cloud moving through the sky. 

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